Request for Information from the Readership
Need some help with a project at work.
Looking to assemble a fast-and-dirty reading list for laymen that deals with the following topics:
Social intelligence, Emotional self-regulation, Emotion and learning, De-escalation of conflict, Attention, Self-Efficacy
Interested in both academic (for reference) and middlebrow (for distribution) titles, particularly those that contain interpersonal strategies and organizational culture angles. Links to journal or magazine articles or whatever else you deem useful will also be appreciated.
Fire away, the more the better.
October 27th, 2011 at 3:19 am
Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman, of courseSocial Intelligence by Karl AlbrechtAll the Ury books (Getting past no, etc – there are three in the series)More later…
October 27th, 2011 at 3:20 am
The Art of Manliness. http://artofmanliness.com/
October 27th, 2011 at 3:45 am
Gracias, Scott!
October 27th, 2011 at 10:32 am
Carnegie’s "How to win friends and influence people" is probably the easiest to read. While it doesn’t specifically use these terms, it incorporates all of them.
October 27th, 2011 at 10:58 am
I’m a fan of Rory Miller’s Meditations on Violence, which veers a bit from what you’re looking for I think.
October 27th, 2011 at 12:19 pm
Self-efficacy… do you mean personal productivity guides, like Getting Things Done? Or self-sufficiency?
October 27th, 2011 at 2:47 pm
Gracias Mike and chris,
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Good question, Bryan. I mean the emotional and intrapersonal skills/beliefs to acheive high performance/productivity.
October 27th, 2011 at 3:21 pm
Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman is interesting but for How to People Skills by Robert Bolton is better for practical use ie defusing anger. I second "How to win friends and influence people"
The 7 habits book seems to nag but Principle Centered Leadership by the same author is better. As far as getting things done – google what James Fallows of the Atlantic says about "Getting things done" by Dave Allen.
October 27th, 2011 at 5:37 pm
Allen’s "Getting Things Done" is both a systems for personal productivity and for de-stressifying life.
There was a good book call "Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff".
Or are you looking for Myers-Briggs stuff (recognizing the the 16 diff personalities, and how to interact or lead each).
October 27th, 2011 at 7:34 pm
Do the conflicts involve different cultures, Zen? Most of what I’m reading here seems a bit monocultural. Could you say more about your context?
October 27th, 2011 at 10:57 pm
Without more specific info on what you are doing, "Collaborative Intelligence" by Hackman might be of interest.
October 28th, 2011 at 11:16 am
What is a Person by Christian Smith
October 28th, 2011 at 2:40 pm
Deep question, Zen. I don’t think I could recommend deeper stuff, but do think you could find GTD useful.
October 28th, 2011 at 11:31 pm
Great book on conflict by John Byrnes called before conflict http://www.amazon.com/Before-Conflict-Preventing-Aggressive-Behavior/dp/0810843978 also Gavin Debeckers The Gift of Fear http://www.amazon.com/Other-Survival-Signals-Protect-Violence/dp/0440508835/ref=pd_sim_b_1
October 29th, 2011 at 3:28 am
Leadership is an Art by DePree.
Leading Change by Kotter.
Competing for the Future by Hamel & Prahalad.
The Book of Five Rings by Musashi (if you really want to Zen them :-).
October 29th, 2011 at 4:10 pm
Much thanks gents! This was a big help!
October 31st, 2011 at 5:44 pm
Dan Ariely’s Predictably Irrational is worth a look as well. The TED talk is a good primer.